Resolve to Lose Weight AGAIN

December 18, 2014 by  

Two weeks until the beginning of another New Year.  And the negative self-talk begins:

“I hate how fat I am, I really have to lose this weight.”
“Look at me, I weigh even more than I did at
Christmastime last year.”
“I’m starting my diet right after New Year’s and this
time I’m really going to stick to it.”

Will 2015 be a repeat of 2014?

What are the chances you’ll lose and keep off that 5, 10, 20, maybe even 50 pounds?  In the statistically unlikely chance you do, how much of an ugly forced march are you going to have to make yourself go through?

How much time are you going to spend thinking about food:  what you can eat, what you can’t eat, what you want to eat, and all of the forced willpower, denial and struggle you’ll constantly be dealing with?

Aren’t you really looking forward to January first now??

Making Healthy Food and Lifestyle Choices


Eric gained 30 pounds after his wife left him for her old high school boyfriend.  Six years ago.  It took less than a year to put it on, and he’s been struggling to take it off ever since.

He tried every new diet the minute it came out and did plenty of formerly popular diets as well.  Each time, this one was going to be IT, the magic bullet, the diet that was finally going to work.  He even spent scraped together the $5,000 fee to enroll in the Rice program at Duke University and did manage to lose 18 pounds, but within two months gained it all back plus a few more.


His entire life revolved around his weight, and he put off doing just about anything  “…until I lose at least 25 pounds.”  When his doctor told him he was pre-diabetic and had better lose at least 30 pounds before he became diabetic, he panicked.

A good college friend had recently died from a diabetes related heart attack, and had been on dialysis nearly 24 hours a day for at least a year leading up to his death and Eric was terrified the same thing would happen to him.

When reality smacks you upside the head
He spent a huge amount of time worrying about what he was going to do and what was going to happen if he couldn’t get his act together.   He even contemplated gaining 80 pounds in order to qualify for bariatric surgery.

By the time Eric found me he had pretty much convinced himself that nothing would ever work, especially something that didn’t involve some sort of diet or exercise.

Last ditch effort
However, sitting on the phone for an hour or so a couple of times a month was certainly more appealing than yet another cleanse & fast, weight loss program or a strictly regimented diet.

And then there was the guarantee – no book or weight loss program ever came with a guarantee.  The guarantee had nothing to do with losing a specific number of pounds, the guarantee was that he’d find he actually didn’t want to eat unhealthy food in large quantities and did want to make healthy food choices.

Still, he wasn’t at all convinced anything would come of it and had a very gloomy and pessimistic outlook about the whole affair.


You don’t have to be Sigmund Freud to know the divorce triggered gaining the first 30 pounds.  Eating in response to emotional pain is very common.   It only becomes a problem when you can’t take it off.

That triggers even more emotional pain, which creates new subconscious “issues” in addition to the first set.  It also creates conscious issues, because now what you eat, when you eat it, how much exercise you do or don’t get, bad foods vs good foods and the fight to not consume the former are constantly in your mind.

It’s so easy to become demoralized
The energy it takes to “manage” everything you eat and the negative energy created by the abusive self-talk that is unrelenting, especially when you look in the mirror, get on the scale,  break the diet, go on a binge, etc. is very stressful.

This not only doesn’t do your waistline any good, it sabotages your self-esteem and self-confidence, and casts a dark shadow over your entire life.  And it becomes a habit, which only supports the downward spiral.

These negative energies get stuck in your subconscious and block you from being who you need to be in order to do what you need to do to resolve the problem.


Making healthy food choices is a breeze for most people who are slim.  They gravitate towards fruit instead of sweets, fish or chicken instead of steak – most of the time! – and when their subconscious sees that they overdid it, it guides them to choose to eat smaller portions and/or low-calorie foods the next day or two.

They say no to the breadbasket, or yes to one piece, because they just don’t want it.  They walk down the cookie aisle, but put nothing in the cart because nothing appeals to them.  When they eat out, they rarely finish the main course, because they “just don’t want any more.”  And they almost never eat both halves of a sandwich!

“It works, it really works!!”
These are the results Eric experienced and so has everyone who has worked on clearing blocks about food.  The hyper-responders begin to experience it the very next day, and it takes others a few sessions.  Once the roadblocks are gone, they never come back.

Eric was ecstatic about how easy it was not to overdo it at Thanksgiving this year.  He ate a big helping of salad first, (light on the dressing, which he prefers now), only one helping of the main meal, and a small piece of pie.  That’s it, that’s all he wanted and he felt totally satisfied.  Not to mention extremely proud of himself!

He likes himself so much more now
We started working together in October and so far, he’s lost 22 pounds.  “I feel like a completely different person.  I’m not obsessed with food anymore or even with losing weight.  I know it will come off and I know it will stay off because I have the ‘head’ of a thinner person now.”

“I could have saved myself so many years of being miserable and hating myself and driving myself crazy with all those diets.  I’m so relieved that’s all over.”


If one of your New Year’s resolutions is going to be to lose weight – again – let this time be the last time.  Wouldn’t it be so much easier if you just didn’t want to eat the things you know will sabotage you and keep you from reaching your goal weight?

Imagine what a relief it will be not to be thinking about food all the time – what you can’t have, what you can have, knowing that a binge is inevitable, and how bad that’s going to feel.

Think about how fantastic and freeing it’s going to feel to get dressed in the morning and wear anything you like, instead of standing in front of the closet and searching for something you can fit into or that camouflages your tummy.


Are you going to put yourself through another year of fighting with yourself about your weight?  Or are you going to emerge with a new mind-set, drop those pounds and keep them off without all the negativity, self-abuse and drama?

It can be done, it has been done and you can do it, too.  And all you have to do is sit quietly on the phone once or twice a month – that’s it.  No homework, no nuthin’.  No willpower, no special diets, no exhausting exercise regimens – none of that.

It’s time
Are you ready to take it off and keep it off?  To stop fighting with yourself and hating yourself?  To live your life and have a healthy relationship with food?

Good.  Let’s get to work on it.

2015 is going to be the year you do it!!

Go to the Roadblock Removal website right now, and take a look at the About page to learn more about the process.

Or just click on the link at the bottom of the far right hand box on the the home page, scroll down and choose which option is right for you.


It really is possible to easily drop those pounds and reach your goal weight.  The sooner you do something about it, the sooner this could be your reality.

If you have any questions, email me at sydney [@] and we’ll schedule a call so you can ask any questions you might have.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity, abundance in all things and a Happy, Joyful Holiday Season,



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