Guaranteed way to keep your resolutions

January 2, 2015 by  
Filed under Mindset

January 1st was yesterday and a whole boatload of people are getting their hopes up that this year is going to be better for them than the last. They so very much want to make the choices and the changes that will make it possible to do, to be, to have and to live the way they desire but aren’t currently experiencing.

If statistics on New Year’s Resolutions are any guide, very few of them are going to pull it off.  And once it’s apparent that they can’t do what they need to do to create a more desirable reality for themselves, the berating, the blaming, the recriminations and the psychological beating themselves up begins.  Again.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions

THE STORY      

Unless you’re already perfect, have the delusional belief you’re already perfect, or just don’t care, there’s something about you or your life you’d like to “be better.”  It’s human nature to strive to be happier, and usually happier means “different or better than I currently am or have now.”

Sometimes when we do acquire or experience what we considered “better”, we’re disappointed to find that it doesn’t come along with the level of happiness we expected, and might even come with its own unforeseen set of problems.

No matter how much we have, it’s never quite enough or it’s not good enough.

THE STRUGGLE

Some people take the position that a better life, a better body, a better you-name-it should just materialize because they’re saying affirmations or just bought a “system” that’s going to make them a seven-figure income in six months.

Others believe that the way to create a better life is by clenching their jaw and powering through obstacles on their own, because you have to work hard and pay your dues to get what you want out of life.  Nobody’s going to hand it to you.

Let’s dismiss the first group, because unless and until they wake up and accept that there’s no magic bullet, they’re only going to make other people a lot of money by shelling out for one magic bullet after another.

Getting real
The second group of people understand that they’re going to have to be proactive, but operate under the erroneous belief that it has to be hard.  Well sometimes that’s true and there’s just no getting around it.  But what if the thing that’s making it hard isn’t external circumstances you can’t do anything about –  it’s yourself?

There’s truth to the saying that at times, we’re our own worst enemy.  Haven’t you ever done something that you knew you shouldn’t do, that you knew wasn’t in your best interests, or that you knew was certain to produce a result you didn’t want?

Raising my hand!
I sure have.  More times than I care to think about.  And yet I wasn’t able to be strong enough to not do it.  To eat that second helping of dessert (as if the first wasn’t bad enough), to continue to date a man I knew wasn’t right for me (year after year), or to put off completing a project that I knew was sure to bring in revenue I really needed.

Are you having a “been there done that” moment?

THE ROADBLOCKS

Regardless of what your particular acts of omission or commission are, the reason you’re not in control of the situation is because you’re not really in charge.  The reason you can’t do or not do what you know would move you closer to you a result you seek, is because a force stronger than your desire is running the show.

That force is your subconscious. 

It would take me more time than I have to type and you to read to explain why this is and how it works, but I promise you, this is what’s keeping you from being in control.

THE RESULTS

You read a lot about reprogramming the subconscious, which can be done with varying degrees of success with hypnosis.  All the other “methods” are basically useless.

Changing your mindset, different words to describe the same thing, can allegedly be accomplished using vigilant and intense focus and unrelenting willpower for months and months, with negligible to lukewarm results.  Not a pleasant process by any stretch of the imagination.

There is a guaranteed solution
Roadblock Removal, the process I use, requires absolutely no work on your part other than to sit undisturbed for about an hour, saying nothing and doing nothing.   There’s no homework or anything for you to do between sessions.

Yes, I know it sounds too good to be true, but if after four sessions you don’t notice any difference, every penny of your money will be promptly refunded.  I’ve never had to give anyone their money back yet, and it’ very unlikely you’d be my first failure.  You don’t even have believe in it – it doesn’t matter and it still works.

“After just one session, you literally grow into a different person, a person you always wished you were.”  SC London

Please note:  some people are hyper-responders and experience the transformation much more quickly than the average client.  This transformation is never something you don’t want or like, it’s always into the person you always hoped you could be.

DISCOVER IT FOR YOURSELF

You can make well-intentioned resolutions for 2015 and experience the same disappointment you end up with every year, or you can take a chance and do something out of the box that’s guaranteed to give you results.  Your life, your choice.

2015 can be the year of the
new & improved you
and your new & improved life
and future!!

Go to the About page to learn more about the process.

Or just click on the link at the bottom of the far right hand box on the the home page, scroll down and choose which option is right for you.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ONLY ONE LIFE,
THERE IS NO DO-OVER

It really is possible to make your New Year’s Resolutions into reality.  The sooner you do something about it, the sooner you’ll experience it.

If you have any questions, email me at sydney [at] sydneybarrows.com and we’ll schedule a call so you can ask any questions you might have.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity, abundance in all things and a Happy New Year,

sydneysig

Resolve to Lose Weight AGAIN

December 18, 2014 by  
Filed under Mindset

Two weeks until the beginning of another New Year.  And the negative self-talk begins:

“I hate how fat I am, I really have to lose this weight.”
“Look at me, I weigh even more than I did at
Christmastime last year.”
“I’m starting my diet right after New Year’s and this
time I’m really going to stick to it.”

Will 2015 be a repeat of 2014?

What are the chances you’ll lose and keep off that 5, 10, 20, maybe even 50 pounds?  In the statistically unlikely chance you do, how much of an ugly forced march are you going to have to make yourself go through?

How much time are you going to spend thinking about food:  what you can eat, what you can’t eat, what you want to eat, and all of the forced willpower, denial and struggle you’ll constantly be dealing with?

Aren’t you really looking forward to January first now??

Making Healthy Food and Lifestyle Choices

THE STORY      

Eric gained 30 pounds after his wife left him for her old high school boyfriend.  Six years ago.  It took less than a year to put it on, and he’s been struggling to take it off ever since.

He tried every new diet the minute it came out and did plenty of formerly popular diets as well.  Each time, this one was going to be IT, the magic bullet, the diet that was finally going to work.  He even spent scraped together the $5,000 fee to enroll in the Rice program at Duke University and did manage to lose 18 pounds, but within two months gained it all back plus a few more.

THE STRUGGLE

His entire life revolved around his weight, and he put off doing just about anything  “…until I lose at least 25 pounds.”  When his doctor told him he was pre-diabetic and had better lose at least 30 pounds before he became diabetic, he panicked.

A good college friend had recently died from a diabetes related heart attack, and had been on dialysis nearly 24 hours a day for at least a year leading up to his death and Eric was terrified the same thing would happen to him.

When reality smacks you upside the head
He spent a huge amount of time worrying about what he was going to do and what was going to happen if he couldn’t get his act together.   He even contemplated gaining 80 pounds in order to qualify for bariatric surgery.

By the time Eric found me he had pretty much convinced himself that nothing would ever work, especially something that didn’t involve some sort of diet or exercise.

Last ditch effort
However, sitting on the phone for an hour or so a couple of times a month was certainly more appealing than yet another cleanse & fast, weight loss program or a strictly regimented diet.

And then there was the guarantee – no book or weight loss program ever came with a guarantee.  The guarantee had nothing to do with losing a specific number of pounds, the guarantee was that he’d find he actually didn’t want to eat unhealthy food in large quantities and did want to make healthy food choices.

Still, he wasn’t at all convinced anything would come of it and had a very gloomy and pessimistic outlook about the whole affair.

THE ROADBLOCKS

You don’t have to be Sigmund Freud to know the divorce triggered gaining the first 30 pounds.  Eating in response to emotional pain is very common.   It only becomes a problem when you can’t take it off.

That triggers even more emotional pain, which creates new subconscious “issues” in addition to the first set.  It also creates conscious issues, because now what you eat, when you eat it, how much exercise you do or don’t get, bad foods vs good foods and the fight to not consume the former are constantly in your mind.

It’s so easy to become demoralized
The energy it takes to “manage” everything you eat and the negative energy created by the abusive self-talk that is unrelenting, especially when you look in the mirror, get on the scale,  break the diet, go on a binge, etc. is very stressful.

This not only doesn’t do your waistline any good, it sabotages your self-esteem and self-confidence, and casts a dark shadow over your entire life.  And it becomes a habit, which only supports the downward spiral.

These negative energies get stuck in your subconscious and block you from being who you need to be in order to do what you need to do to resolve the problem.

THE RESULTS

Making healthy food choices is a breeze for most people who are slim.  They gravitate towards fruit instead of sweets, fish or chicken instead of steak – most of the time! – and when their subconscious sees that they overdid it, it guides them to choose to eat smaller portions and/or low-calorie foods the next day or two.

They say no to the breadbasket, or yes to one piece, because they just don’t want it.  They walk down the cookie aisle, but put nothing in the cart because nothing appeals to them.  When they eat out, they rarely finish the main course, because they “just don’t want any more.”  And they almost never eat both halves of a sandwich!

“It works, it really works!!”
These are the results Eric experienced and so has everyone who has worked on clearing blocks about food.  The hyper-responders begin to experience it the very next day, and it takes others a few sessions.  Once the roadblocks are gone, they never come back.

Eric was ecstatic about how easy it was not to overdo it at Thanksgiving this year.  He ate a big helping of salad first, (light on the dressing, which he prefers now), only one helping of the main meal, and a small piece of pie.  That’s it, that’s all he wanted and he felt totally satisfied.  Not to mention extremely proud of himself!

He likes himself so much more now
We started working together in October and so far, he’s lost 22 pounds.  “I feel like a completely different person.  I’m not obsessed with food anymore or even with losing weight.  I know it will come off and I know it will stay off because I have the ‘head’ of a thinner person now.”

“I could have saved myself so many years of being miserable and hating myself and driving myself crazy with all those diets.  I’m so relieved that’s all over.”

IT’S POSSIBLE FOR THIS TO BE YOUR REALITY, TOO

If one of your New Year’s resolutions is going to be to lose weight – again – let this time be the last time.  Wouldn’t it be so much easier if you just didn’t want to eat the things you know will sabotage you and keep you from reaching your goal weight?

Imagine what a relief it will be not to be thinking about food all the time – what you can’t have, what you can have, knowing that a binge is inevitable, and how bad that’s going to feel.

Think about how fantastic and freeing it’s going to feel to get dressed in the morning and wear anything you like, instead of standing in front of the closet and searching for something you can fit into or that camouflages your tummy.

DISCOVER IT FOR YOURSELF

Are you going to put yourself through another year of fighting with yourself about your weight?  Or are you going to emerge with a new mind-set, drop those pounds and keep them off without all the negativity, self-abuse and drama?

It can be done, it has been done and you can do it, too.  And all you have to do is sit quietly on the phone once or twice a month – that’s it.  No homework, no nuthin’.  No willpower, no special diets, no exhausting exercise regimens – none of that.

It’s time
Are you ready to take it off and keep it off?  To stop fighting with yourself and hating yourself?  To live your life and have a healthy relationship with food?

Good.  Let’s get to work on it.

2015 is going to be the year you do it!!

Go to the Roadblock Removal website right now, and take a look at the About page to learn more about the process.

Or just click on the link at the bottom of the far right hand box on the the home page, scroll down and choose which option is right for you.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ONLY ONE LIFE,
THERE IS NO DO-OVER

It really is possible to easily drop those pounds and reach your goal weight.  The sooner you do something about it, the sooner this could be your reality.

If you have any questions, email me at sydney [@] sydneybarrows.com and we’ll schedule a call so you can ask any questions you might have.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity, abundance in all things and a Happy, Joyful Holiday Season,

sydneysig

 

Not so Happy Holidays

December 10, 2014 by  
Filed under Mindset

I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving with family and friends.  However, the holidays can be very stressful particularly when it comes to families and family dynamics.

Most of us feel compelled to “go home” even though some of us know ahead of time that it isn’t going to be as happy and fun as we’d like.  And that’s because in spite of the fact that you have a job, a home of your own and a life somewhere else, for some reason the family dynamic doesn’t seem to have changed much since you left.

A parent is as critical and negative as ever, a sibling as selfish and argumentative, a grandparent as complaining – it can feel like everything has been frozen in time and you’re back in the thick of it again.  And you aren’t wrong, it hasn’t and you are.

It’s not possible to change them, which means the only thing you can do is change the way you react and respond to them.  And it can be done.

Home for the Holidays

THE STORY      

Amiko goes home every year for Thanksgiving, and dreads it.

She’s the youngest of three girls, and as the “baby of the family,” had been coddled and pampered more than the other two.  One of the reasons was also that her father was making considerably more money than when the first two were growing up, and had the means to give Amiko more than the first two.  And her older sisters bitterly resented it.

They called her “the spoiled little princess” and were dismissive and critical of both her and the advantages she’d had that they hadn’t.  They took it out on their parents, too, and complained and sniped at them to make them feel guilty for “not caring” for them and giving them as much as they had Amiko.

The last straw
Last Christmas was so bad, she told her girlfriends, that she couldn’t bear doing it again and was going to try to come up with a plausible excuse why she couldn’t be there next year.  The one thing she couldn’t shake was how much that would hurt her parents.  She felt like there was no way out.

One of her friends was telling her mother about it and she suggested looking into Roadblock Removal, because it had done wonders for a friend of hers.

THE STRUGGLE

On an intellectual level, Amiko understood why her sisters felt they hadn’t been as fortunate as she was.  But it wasn’t like she’d taken advantage of her parents, in fact, she went out of her way not to encourage them to be so generous, because she didn’t want to have to deal with the fallout.

And she felt very guilty, which took a lot of the enjoyment out of the opportunities she had and the things she was given.  She felt guilty because she was so much more fortunate than her sisters, and she felt guilty because she felt she was disappointing her parents because they clearly received so much pleasure from giving to her and she wasn’t able to enjoy that as much as she felt they deserved.

THE ROADBLOCKS

Amiko knew that nothing she could ever say or do would appease her sisters and that it was not her fault she had been showered with so much more than they.

Her parents did tend to continue to be more generous with her because every time they did something for her siblings, it was often met with scorn and criticism.  Amiko was always appreciative, even as she hid the guilt and the fact that she wasn’t as happy as she could tell they were hoping she’d be.

She felt the situation was hopeless; how could there possibly be a way to change her sisters’ behavior?  What she never considered was changing the way she reacted to it.  She was doubtful this was the solution, but decided, why not try it?

THE RESULTS

Sunday morning there was an email in my Inbox from Amiko, saying that she couldn’t believe how well Thanksgiving went!  We got on the phone and she was a mix of stunned, grateful, delighted, and relieved.

Her sisters were “just as negative as ever, and it was like I had this clear wall around me and nothing they said got through!”  She heard it, but it didn’t create the usual  bad feelings, “… it was like it neutered everything they said.”

An added benefit
She was able to be more present with her parents because she wasn’t distracted and feeling wounded and guilty from her sister’s unkind and cruel remarks.  She enjoyed being with them and free of the guilt that had erected a barrier with them.

Old habits die hard, as they say, so she still has a lot of trepidation about Christmas, which is a much more emotionally loaded holiday.  She’s scheduled a couple of “let’s make sure” appointments, even though she could probably do without them.

She doesn’t know if she’ll ever be able to genuinely look forward to going home for the holidays, that would be an added bonus, but at least she won’t dread them.

IT’S POSSIBLE FOR THIS TO BE YOUR REALITY, TOO

Do you look forward to being with your family during the holidays?  Do those old dynamics continue to play out every year, taking the joy out of everything?

Maybe you find yourself being the instigator and just can’t seem to keep it from happening.  The anger and old resentments just bubble up and all of a sudden, you turn into Mr. Hyde.

The in-laws from hell
You might have the in-laws from hell, and would rather spend a few days there than with your spouse’s family!  This will work for you, too.

Stop the cycle
Regardless of whether you’re the aggressor or the victim, it’s possible to change how you respond to the triggers that set off the emotional downslide.

Neuter the anger and resentment that causes you to say and do unkind things.  Have an invisible “teflon wall” that doesn’t allow anything negative that comes your way to affect you.

No more drama
Take the drama, internal and external, out of the holidays and enjoy yourself.  You’re fortunate to have family, even one as dysfunctional as yours!  And in the event yours is so destructively dysfunctional that it really would be best to have nothing to do with them yet you can’t make the break, we can deal with the roadblocks that are keeping you there.

Next time we’ll address those of you who have no family, and have to deal with being alone during the holidays.

DISCOVER IT FOR YOURSELF

Do you have family issues that are keeping you from enjoying the holidays?  Maybe even dreading them?  Does your spouse insist on spending at least one of the two major holidays with his family, and you can’t stand them?

It doesn’t have to be this way

There are only three weeks until Christmas, and while I can’t guarantee a significant improvement in three weeks, quite a few people are hype-responders and get amazing results after just one session.  You might be one of them.

Go to the Roadblock Removal website right now, and take a look at the About page to learn more about the process.

Or just click on the link in one of the boxes on the home page and choose which option is right for you.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ONLY ONE LIFE,
THERE IS NO DO-OVER

It really is possible to have a stress-free holiday with family.  The sooner you do something about it, the sooner this could be your reality this year, and definitely next year.

If you have any questions, email me at sydney [@] sydneybarrows.com and we’ll schedule a call so you can describe your situation to me, and I’ll tell you how we’ll go about resolving  it.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity and abundance in all things,

sydneysig

 

Under the Radar – Self Hate

November 6, 2014 by  
Filed under Mindset

How many times have you found yourself making choices that are self-destructive, and you know they’re self-destructive, but you do it anyway.  Over and over.

Eating is a perfect example: you know you’re packing on way too many pounds and that if you don’t get a handle on it, the health issues you have are going to get a lot worse.

Maybe you’re diabetic and even though you’re having problems with your vision, you still eat pastries and ice cream, and don’t check your blood sugar as often as you know you should.

Self-defeating behavior
Perhaps you have a real problem with spending, and your credit cards are maxed out, you pay only the minimum every month, but still you apply for another one and another one and hide the bills from your husband because you know how angry and upset he’d be if he ever found out that you have over $40,000 in credit card debt.

There are countless ways people sabotage their lives, safety and happiness, and they know they have to make better choices, but have no idea how to stop making the wrong ones.  What can we do when self-destructive behavior threatens our health, our life and even our very survival?

Self-Hate

THE STORY      

Gary was in such a state by the time we first spoke that he needed a few rounds of on-the-spot EFT before we could have any kind of conversation about what he wanted help with.  EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as tapping.

There have been a number of times, both with business consulting clients as well as roadblock removal clients, where they’re in such an emotional state that that it’s pointless to even attempt to do anything else until their anxiety is under control.  EFT is an excellent tool for that.

What do you do when things just “stop working?”
Gary had always struggled, in fact he told me that things had “never gone easy” for him for most of his life.  But, he always seemed to manage to pull through.  Now it was getting more and more difficult to do that and he was scared.

Scared “of my life being a complete and total failure and ending up on the street.”  “I feel like a spectator sometimes, watching myself destroy my life.”

THE STRUGGLE

Gary had been going down the self-help road for a number of years and had spent thousands of dollars “trying to get my act together.”   He’d read books, attended seminars, done both live and self-administered online courses, and had one-on-one consultations with several people who’d convinced him that they had the answer.

After all of this he had a pretty good idea of the origins of the self-sabotage, but understanding it and being to get past it were two different things.

The only thing he’d ever received appreciable results from was one-on-work, the positive results of which lasted for a while, but eventually he found himself back doing the same self-destructive behaviors and making the same harmful choices.

THE ROADBLOCKS

As readers of this newsletter already know, it doesn’t make any difference if you know or understand who, what, when, where, why or how you ended up where you are right now.  Roadblock Removal works whether you figure out the backstory or not.

Gary was very relieved to hear that he could stop digging and trudging through all the mud and the muck, as I call it, and just get on with it.  And that once the roadblocks had been removed, they were gone permanently.

An invisible issue
As we began working together, it became clear to me that the hobgoblin behind Gary’s issues was self-hate.  More people deal with this than you think, and a most of the time it’s totally under the radar.  If you mention it to them, as I did with Gary, they deny it and don’t believe it could possibly be true.

But when I tested for it with Gary, it kept coming back positive.

THE RESULTS

Gary says he feels like a different person now.  He’s making better choices and with a great deal of the fear and anxiety, not to mention limiting beliefs, no longer getting in his way, his life is getting on track.

“And it’s been effortless, I don’t even notice how differently I’m feeling and behaving unless something happens to remind me that I’m no longer where I was before we started.”

Rather than making choices that “destroy my life” he’s now making choices that enhance it, and all with no willpower or even much, if any, conscious thought.

IT’S POSSIBLE FOR THIS TO BE YOUR REALITY, TOO

Roadblock Removal is truly transformative work, you literally become the kind of person who does or does not do what it takes to get you to where you want to go.  You accomplish what you want to accomplish, start or complete a project or goal, or just react and respond differently to triggers that used to throw you off track.

DISCOVER IT FOR YOURSELF

There are only two months of 2014 to go.  How different, in a positive way, has your life been this year than it was in 2013?  If a lot, then congratulations, I couldn’t be happier for you.

If 2014 was disappointing, and particularly if 2013 wasn’t so good either, you need to do something differently.

IT’S TIME TO TAKE ACTION

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”  If you’ve been struggling, wondering why things never seem to go your way, then it’s time to put your foot down and put an end to it.  Now.

Do you really want another year to go by not being happy, prosperous and living up to your potential?  Or is part of the problem that somewhere in there you don’t really believe you have potential?  Or you know you do, but just can’t seem to get it together and get the results?

There is a solution, you just have to make the choice.

Imagine how great you’ll feel when you get up every morning and find it easy and effortless to do whatever needs to be accomplished that day. Think about that for a minute.  You’ll just do it!  Because you want to do it.

The sooner you remove the roadblocks, the sooner this will be your reality.

And it couldn’t be easier, all you have to do is sit quietly on the phone, without multi-tasking, for an hour or so 2-3 times a month.  That’s it.  It’s that simple.

Here’s how
Go to the Roadblock Removal website right now, and take a look at the About page to learn more about the process.  Wander around the site some more if you wish.

Then click on the link in one of the boxes on the home page that seems to best fit your issue, and you’ll discover even more.  And if none of them are on target, not to worry, there was only so much room and I chose the most common issues.  At the end of each page, choose the number of sessions that works best for you.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ONLY ONE LIFE,
THERE IS NO DO-OVER

You CAN do what you want to do, have what you want to have,  and be who you want to be once you get rid of the blocks standing in your way.  And if you don’t notice results after the fourth session, I’ll give you all your money back – guaranteed.

If you have any questions, email me at sydney [@] sydneybarrows.com  and we’ll schedule a complimentary call so you can describe your situation to me, and I’ll tell you how we’ll go about resolving it.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity and abundance in all things,

sydneysig

 

Procrastination — What Doesn’t Work

October 23, 2014 by  
Filed under Mindset

The subject that still generates the largest number of responses is Procrastination.  And it’s because it’s one that affects just about all of us in varying degrees, from frustrating to approaching catastrophic.

Clients come to me with “procrastination issues,” because they believe their problem is not getting something accomplished that is important to them or to their business.  Or they’re just worn out by the drama and negativity it takes to complete something.

Typical “solutions”
There’s the “announce a deadline that you’ll be publicly humiliated if you don’t meet it” method; the “scare yourself into doing it” method, wherein you awful-ize and create scary scenarios of what will happen if it doesn’t get done; the “sheer willpower” method, which is basically an unpleasant and sometimes ugly “forced march”; you get the picture.

All of them rely on stress, negative self-talk and beating up on the self, and when the goal is finally achieved, the overwhelming internal response is relief, relief from the painful way it was accomplished.  Not the joy of accomplishment itself.

WHAT A DISMAL WAY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE

What very few people understand, is that procrastination is not the issue, it’s the manifestation of the issue.

At its core, procrastination is the Lack of Sincere Desire to (pick one or more):

  • Be who and what you need to be
  • Do what you need to do
  • Make the choices you need to make
  • Take the necessary action

to create a life and future that is happy, healthy, satisfying, successful (as you define it), and financially secure.

THE EXPLANATION

There are myriad reasons your subconscious is lacking that Sincere Desire, some of the most common of which are:

  1. The belief that you don’t deserve it because of “who you are (bad)” or because of something you’ve done (bad)
  2. The belief that you’ll never be successful because that’s what you were told growing up.  Sometimes it only takes one time, if it comes from a pivotal person.
  3. The fear of what will or might happen if you “do it”
  4. The fear of what you will or might lose if you “do it”
  5. The fear of what others might think of or say about you if you succeed
  6. The fear of failure, and what that will cause both you and others to think of you
  7. The fear of success and how that will or might change your life in a way that’s unknown and scary, or known and not acceptable
  8. The belief that you don’t have the ability to successfully “do it” (not smart enough, etc.)

Doesn’t it make sense that if you harbor one or more of these beliefs, it is not possible to justify, nor is it even in your best interests, to spend resources, including time, money, and/or the psychological and emotional commitment, to achieve that goal?

THIS IS WHAT A ROADBLOCK IS

Items one through eight above are all roadblocks.  They are what’s getting in the way of getting to where you want to be from where you are right now.

You can choose to fight them or to soldier your way onwards in spite of them, which will produce varying degrees of success.

Standard operating procedures don’t work
What you can’t do is will them or rationalize them away.  What won’t work are affirmations, “creating a new mindset,” journaling, or any of the other mechanical methods that are out there.

If you have a mild case of Lack of Sincere Desire regarding something and are diligent and devote a great deal of time and energy to it, you might be able to achieve some degree of success. But as those of you know who have tried any of these, that success is elusive and fleeting.

In a future post I’ll give you more details about the mechanics of Lack of Sincere Desire and why your subconscious holds on to your roadblocks.

DISCOVER IT FOR YOURSELF

Yes, I’m painfully aware of how self-serving it sounds to tell you that it is possible to permanently remove these roadblocks and create a happy, healthy, successful and financially secure life and future for yourself.  And that I have the means to do it.

That’s why there’s a guarantee that if you don’t notice any changes in the way you’re thinking and acting, and in the choices you’re making – all of this completely naturally, no willpower involved at all – I’ll give you your money back.

This is all you have to do – seriously!
It’s all done over the telephone, requires no homework or effort on your part, and is completely unlike traditional therapy in that you never need to talk about or disclose anything about yourself at all.

You literally just sit there and BE.  You can even fall asleep, and there have been plenty of clients who do, and it still works.  You don’t even have to believe in it, it will still work.

HERE’S EXACTY WHAT TO DO:

Send me an email and request a consultation, and get on my calendar so you can tell me where you are right now and where you’d rather be instead.  I’ll explain to you how I’ll make that happen.

If you’d like a little more information before requesting your private consultation, take a look at the About page to learn more about the process.  Check out the Is This You? pageto see some of the challenges former clients have successfully overcome, and that will be your reality, too. Take a look at some of the Testimonials (there are dozens more that I have to get my act together and put up).

Dive deeper
Then click on the link in one of the boxes on the Home page to discover even more, and choose which participation option is right for you.  It doesn’t matter if any of those three issues are not your issues, I had to put something up there and these are the most popular.

Yes, it really is as simple as that.  And after four sessions, if you don’t notice yourself thinking, feeling and acting differently, I’ll give you your money back.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ONLY ONE LIFE,
THERE IS NO DO-OVER

You CAN have what you want to have, be who you want to be and do what you want to do once you get rid of the subconscious blocks standing in your way.  Isn’t that what you want for yourself?  The sooner you do something about it, the sooner this will be your reality.

So direct a request for your personal consultation to Sydney [at] SydneyBarrows [dot] com and we’ll schedule a call so you can describe your situation to me, and I’ll tell you how we’ll go about resolving  it.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity and abundance in all things,

sydneysig

Shadow Beliefs

September 12, 2014 by  
Filed under Mindset

Roadblocks take many different forms, and the one we’re going to address today is Shadow Beliefs.

There are various different “strains” if you will, of Shadow Beliefs, but they all have to do with the thoughts, feelings and beliefs we have about our abilities, our worthiness, our expectations and who we are as a person.

They shape what you do or don’t do, and what you believe you can or cannot have or be.

Shadow Beliefs

THE STORY      

Jerry is a workaholic who is extremely successful, but has no personal life.  He works pretty much seven days a week and hasn’t taken a vacation in at least 30 years.

He’s been divorced since his grown children were toddlers and is estranged from them.  He has no real friends or a girlfriend because he has no time for them, nor does he have any hobbies, like golf, fishing, chess etc.

It works for now
Jerry really enjoys what he does and believes he doesn’t miss having a personal life.  He actually sees it as an asset, because it’s allowed him to focus solely on his work.

However, some of his colleagues are beginning to retire, and most of them have a spouse, family, friends and outside interests to fall back on.  His company has a forced retirement policy and in a few years, he won’t have a job to be the sole focus of  his life.

THE STRUGGLE

Part of him is looking forward to not having to be so driven, to be able to sit back and read, ride his bicycle, and maybe get back into riding motorcycles, of which he has three that he hasn’t touched in years.

But he’s concerned that after a few weeks of “nothing to do,” he’ll be bored.  He didn’t mention it, but without any friends or family to speak of, he’ll also be lonely.

A lucky happenstance
A colleague referred him to me; his sister-in-law had been a client and the entire family still can’t believe the transformation.  Jerry was very skeptical – the concept was way too woo-woo for him, but his colleague, who is the closest thing he has to a friend, was insistent.

On some level he knew he had “issues,” yet also knew he didn’t want to have to dredge up the past and have to go slogging through the muck to figure out why.  He wanted the results without the work, and so roadblock removal sounded like an ideal solution “if it works.”

THE ROADBLOCKS

It turns out that Jerry’s primary roadblocks were two Shadow Beliefs of being unworthy of having a life (specifically any kind of personal life) and of not belonging.

The first few sessions we released some really ugly stuff, even I was taken aback at how dark it was.  It turns out that he was “an accident.”   He was 14 years younger than his sister and 16 years younger than his brother, and his mother was very bitter that she was going to be tied down to raising another child.

This was not part of her plan
She had married very young and was looking forward to having a life of her own in another five years or so when her first two children were going to be off on their own.  Jerry was a very unwelcome crimp in her vision of her future.

Unfortunately, she was so resentful about it that she didn’t keep it to herself when she got frustrated with him, and he grew up knowing that he wasn’t wanted, was a burden and that his mother wished he’d never been born.

The origins of his Shadow Beliefs
That’s where the Shadow Belief of being unworthy of having a life and from, and why he was so driven to be successful in order to be worthy of something.

The Shadow Belief of feeling like he didn’t belong manifested itself in the estrangement from his children and having no friends or even a girlfriend.

Other support
In addition to removing many, many roadblocks, at his request I also constructed a plan consisting of little tiny baby steps so he could begin to integrate himself into what most of us would consider a normal life.

It’s been a very slow process not only because it’s difficult, but because his work schedule leaves him with so little time to pay attention to anything else.

THE RESULTS

As you can imagine, removing many layers of those Shadow Beliefs as well as countless other subconscious thoughts, opinions, beliefs, attitudes, judgments etc, was like lifting a thick, dense, heavy, dark cloud from his entire being.

He feels both physically and mentally lighter and more free.  He says his vision is more sharp and clear, his thought processes have more clarity and are more creative, and he feels grounded for the first time in his life.

Unexpected benefits
He can “taste the complexities of the food I eat” and “the water feel different when it hits my body when I take a shower.”  He’s more “in the now” and is able to “personally identify” with colleagues and clients, which he never realized he hadn’t been doing.

Jerry is still a work in progress and gave me permission to tell his story so that other people who read it and resonate with it will know that there’s another life available to them when they shed the Shadow Beliefs that are sabotaging and keeping them from having a richer, happier life.

IT’S POSSIBLE FOR THIS TO BE YOUR REALITY, TOO

If any part of Jerry’s story does resonate with you, please consider looking into removing the subconscious beliefs that are blocking and holding you back from a more happy healthy, and satisfying life and future.

DISCOVER IT FOR YOURSELF

It’s so easy:  we get on the phone together you just sit in a comfy chair or lay down on the bed – you can even fall asleep! – and I do all the work.  You don’t have to talk about or reveal anything about yourself or your past if you don’t want to.

You don’t even have to believe in it –  it still works.

Imagine how freeing it will be to feel “light,” both in your mind and in your body.  If you have any sort of cloud that dampens your senses, your feelings, your ability to feel present in your surroundings, you can free yourself from it.

When that cloud is gone, you’ll be wake up every day feeling totally refreshed and thinking positively about the day ahead.   You won’t believe how much easier it will be to get things done, even things you’ve been avoiding.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ONLY ONE LIFE,
THERE IS NO DO-OVER

You CAN have what you want to have, be who you want to be and do what you want to do once you get rid of the subconscious blocks standing in your way.  Isn’t that what you want for yourself?  The sooner you do something about it, the sooner this will be your reality.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity and abundance in all things,

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Something bad might happen if I do it

August 30, 2014 by  
Filed under Mindset

When we set out to accomplish something, whether it be business or personal, we’re setting a goal that is meaningful to us in some way.  It could be really important or it could just be something ordinary that we want to do “just because.”

“I really, really want this!”
We’ve decided we want something to HAPPEN.  We might want to create, we may want to cease & desist, we may want to tweak, or we may want to do a full-scale renovation.  And usually, we want it to happen as soon as possible.

Why, then, can achieving this goal be so difficult sometimes?  Presumably this goal is in our best interests in one way or another, but we never seem to get around to completing it, if we ever got started in the first place!

“Too bad. Not happening.”
Your subconscious might imagine, fear or believe that something will or might happen that is not in your best interests were you to achieve this goal.  This is a roadblock.

And this roadblock sabotages and interferes with reaching the goal.  The conclusion/judgment – of ourselves and possibly of others – is that we’re procrastinating.  And procrastination is bad, therefore we are bad.  And another roadblock is formed or added to.

Fear of What Will or Might Happen

THE STORY      

Monica has two children and has been divorced for two years.  Fortunately, her former husband is being very generous with child support and she has a job, so she doesn’t have any financial issues at the moment.  And he sees the children every other weekend and has them for six weeks during the summer, which gives her sufficient time for a personal life.

She’d been 20 pounds overweight ever since the birth of her second child and the stress of the divorce caused her to gain another 25.  Her friends and family have been “suggesting” that she make an effort to start dating, and have even fixed her up with a couple of men.

Not happening
But she claimed they didn’t interest her and she ignored their suggestions that she go online, in spite of the fact that she knew or knew of a number of women who had met really great guys that way.

THE STRUGGLE

She had been on several different diets but gained the weight back every time, and was feeling both frustrated and scared that she would never reach her goal weight.

And because none of us likes to continuously make an effort and keep failing, she kept putting off going on another diet until she could no longer fit into her “fat clothes.”

She was with a couple of girlfriends one day, and the big topic of conversation was how great Alicia looked after having lost 60 pounds and how she never seemed tempted to indulge in bread, desserts, chips, etc.  In fact, they reported with amazement, she said didn’t even want to eat them!

Really?!?
That was the really intriguing part, she didn’t even want them.  When her friends would marvel at her will power and self control, she always said that wasn’t what it was, she knew she could have any of that once in a while, but she didn’t because she just didn’t want to.

And Monica decided right then and there that, “I want to have what she’s having.”   She called Alicia, who told her she owed it all to Roadblock Removal.

THE ROADBLOCKS

Monica’s roadblocks that sabotaged her efforts to lose weight tuned out to be that she was concerned her former husband would cut off or try to reduce the child support if he found out she was involved with someone.

Now she didn’t have to talk about or try to figure any of this out.  The realization came to her after a few sessions, but even if it hadn’t, removing the roadblocks would have been just as easy and effective.

THE RESULTS

After the very first roadblock removal session, Monica found herself seeking out healthy foods like salads and fresh fruit.  She served them to her kids, too, which made her feel like a good mother.

By the fourth session, she reported that she hadn’t had a hamburger or steak in two weeks and was eating much more fish than usual.  She liked fish, but rarely served it at home.

There was some push-back from her son, which she listened to but told him that all of them were going to be eating more healthy food now, and that if he wanted hamburger and steak, he could have them when he visited his father.

“I can’t believe I’m doing this!”
She became an avid label reader at the supermarket and was horrified at the amount of sugar and fat she found in foods she frequently purchased.  There was no way any of that was going into the basket!

But what surprised her the most was that she joined a group that walked every morning and bought a video, some hand weights and a couple of stretchy bands which she started using on the days she didn’t walk!   “I didn’t plan it, all of a sudden I just found myself doing it!”

IT’S POSSIBLE FOR THIS TO BE YOUR REALITY, TOO

Monica has had to go out and buy some new clothes, because “Even my skinny clothes are too big!”  But she’s not buying very many until she reaches her goal weight and easily remains there for at least three months.  And she’s convinced that will happen.

If you’ve been having difficulty losing weight or accomplishing another important goal , totally unbeknownst to you, your subconscious might imagine or believe something “bad” will or might happen if you do.

You really have no control over it
Once your subconscious believes that something negative is going to happen if you do reach that goal, it’s very unlikely you will and if you do, it’s even more unlikely it will last.

So stop berating yourself.  You may think you have a procrastination problem, but what you really have is a roadblock problem.  And once they’re gone, just like Monica, you’ll be free and able to achieve your goal.

DISCOVER IT FOR YOURSELF

It usually takes just one or two sessions before you’ll notice a difference in the way you think and feel.  You’ll find yourself easily making choices that move you further towards achieving your goal.

No willpower or “making” yourself do anything, it comes completely naturally.  Most clients feel like they’ve been “transformed.”

And it couldn’t be easier, all you have to do is sit quietly on the phone, without multi-tasking, for an hour or so 2-3 times a month.  That’s it.  It’s that simple.

IT’S TIME FOR YOU TO TAKE ACTION

Have you been struggling unsuccessfully to lose weight?  To get rid of some clutter?  To finish your website?  Whatever it is, once you start releasing  the roadblocks you’ll find yourself on the way to getting it done.

Imagine how great you’re going to feel when you get up every morning and instinctively make choices that will get you closer to accomplishing something that’s important to you.  Think about that for a minute.  You’ll just do it!  Because you want to do it.

The sooner you remove the roadblocks, the sooner this will be your reality.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity and abundance in all things,

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Stuck in A Time Warp

August 16, 2014 by  
Filed under Behavioral Changes, Mindset

Do you know anyone who thinks, reacts to or holds on to behavior that made sense when those thoughts, reactions and habits were formed, but over the passage of time, are no longer relevant and do not serve them?

I live on the Upper West Side of Manhattan where there are a dwindling number of holocaust survivors, mostly women.  They’re all very petite, in fact, a number of years ago I had a friend visiting from Oklahoma who asked me who were all of these very small, elderly women she saw walking around?

Their diminutive stature is a result of either being all but starved to death in the camps, or if they managed to survive without being captured, they had very little to eat because they had to remain hidden and had limited access to food.

Old – Perception Habits and Patterns

One day I was at Fairway, primarily a fruit and vegetable store that over the years has expanded to include other foodstuffs.  There was one of these little women with several items in a cart that she wouldn’t let go of or turn her back on for a second, even though it meant inconveniencing herself and other shoppers.

I observed her as I was waiting for my number to be called at the deli counter, and heard her respond to an irritated woman that she couldn’t do whatever the shopper had asked her to do, because she didn’t want someone to steal anything from her cart.

The old-perceptions
Here she was, in a store with such an abundance of everything, no one would ever consider taking an item from someone else’s cart.  And in the extremely unlikely event it did happen, there was plenty more where that came from and it could easily be replaced.

And that’s when it hit me.  Even after decades of living in a place where there has always been an abundance of food, this woman still clung to the fear that someone would steal it from her and she’d have nothing and would go hungry.  My eyes welled up with sadness that even 50 years later, she still didn’t feel safe and still feared not having enough to eat.

The habits and patterns
Due to the perceptions she had internalized about the scarcity of food in her childhood, she clung to thoughts, feelings, beliefs and habit patterns she’d developed in order to survive.  But in spite of the fact that food is abundant today and has been ever since she set foot in America after the war, she continues to cling to those old perceptions.

Living in the past
It’s like being in a time warp; our reactions and responses don’t catch up with what the world, our life, surroundings, relationships, etc have evolved into today.  And very often we don’t even realize it.

Those of you who feel like you’re reliving your childhood during the holidays because of the way you and your siblings behave towards each other, are responding to old perceptions you still have of them and of yourself.  This triggers the same habits and behavior patterns it did years ago.

This no longer has to be your reality

When your old-perceptions cause you to react in a manner that’s detrimental to your well-being, happiness or success, that’s a roadblock.  Unconsciously responding to people or situations the way you used to under entirely different circumstances keeps you locked in the past, and interferes with who you are and what you could accomplish today.

THERE IS A SOLUTION

You can get rid of these old-perceptions, and the habits and patterns that go with them.  You can create the life and success you want today without being dragged down and sabotaged by what was, but is no longer.

Go to the Roadblock Removal website right now, and take a look at the About page to learn more about the process.  Check out the Is This You? page to see some of the challenges former clients have successfully overcome, and you can, too.  Take a look at some of the Testimonials (there are dozens more that I have to get my act together and put up there).

Then click on the link in one of the boxes on the home page to discover even more, and choose which participation option is right for you.

Don’t let another week, month or year go by as your life slips away because you can’t break away from the past, a reality that no longer exists.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ONLY ONE LIFE,
THERE IS NO DO-OVER

You CAN have what you want to have, be who you want to be and do what you want to do once you get rid of the barriers standing in your way.  Imagine how great that will feel!!  The sooner you do something about it, the sooner this will be your reality.

If you have any questions, email me at sydney@sydneybarrows.com and we’ll schedule a call so you can describe your situation to me, and I’ll tell you how we’ll go about resolving  it.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity and abundance in all things,

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Procrastination – the Indecisiveness Factor

August 4, 2014 by  
Filed under Mindset

One of the biggest roadblocks to getting what you want out of life is the inability to decide what to do and how to do it.  There are so many options, how can you be sure which one is best?

How can you predict what choice will yield the best results?  How do you figure out which will make you the happiest, will generate the most revenue, or will shield you from judgment or criticism from those whose opinions you value?

Indecision can be paralyzing
With these kinds of thoughts racing through your mind, it’s frustrating and difficult to make a choice.  So you put it off and put it off, and at some point, are accused of or accuse yourself of, procrastinating.

Being unable to make up your mind and choose what to do, how to do it and to commit to making a plan based on that choice sabotages your life, your relationships and your business.

Indecision

THE STORY

Jonathan “suffered” from having too many options after graduating from college in New Orleans.  He could move back to Michigan and go into the (very successful and lucrative) family business, he could stay in New Orleans and work for the company where he had been an intern, or he could take a few years off and join the Peace Corps.

All had their pros and cons, and there wasn’t one he felt significantly more passionate about than the other two.  So until he made up his mind, he did what many new graduates do and moved back home.  And nearly a year later he was still there, because he couldn’t decide what to do.

THE STRUGGLE

Jonathan’s parents were glad to have him at home, after not having seen much of him for four years.  But after a couple of months, they started to ask him what his plans were, listened and put their two cents in, but didn’t push.

By Labor Day, his grandparents started getting into the act, and they were more high pressure.  Add to the mix that time was running out with the position in New Orleans; if he waited any longer the opportunity would probably disappear.

Our own worst critic
And Jonathan was getting more and more anxious himself.  He’d had so much time to think about it that it became increasingly more urgent that whatever he chose absolutely had to be the very best choice.

The more pressure he put on himself, the more apprehensive he became about picking the right one.  His mother had a friend who had been a roadblock removal client, and she hoped her son would get the same terrific result that her friend did.

THE ROADBLOCKS

There was nothing that Jonathan could think of that was “causing this procrastination.”  Unlike traditional talk therapy, it didn’t matter if he ever figured that out.  A roadblock removal client says almost nothing during a session, so there’s no digging up the past or having to answer the question, “And how did that make you feel?”

Once he heard this, he was on board!  There were a number of roadblocks like guilt, helplessness and worry that came up, which were quickly cleared as were all the others.

THE RESULTS

Sometimes clients need a little more support than just removing their roadblocks, and in addition to getting rid of his roadblocks about making a decision, Jonathan wanted the point of view and opinion of a disinterested party about his choices.

We spent an hour talking about it, or rather he talked, I just asked questions, which brought things to the surface that he hadn’t previously considered.  In the end, he decided to apply for the Peace Corps, a good choice considering a number of things he’d shared during that discussion.

While his parents weren’t thrilled, to their credit they didn’t try to persuade him to reconsider.  But they were thrilled he was finally moving ahead with his life.

IT’S POSSIBLE FOR THIS TO BE YOUR REALITY, TOO

Do find you have difficulty making decisions about what to do and how to do it, or when confronted with two or more good options, do you often have trouble making a choice?

There are a number of reasons this is a problem, but regardless of what they are, the underlying subconscious blocks supporting them are easily removed.  Without that foundation, those “reasons” no longer have the ability to sabotage and interfere with making a choice or coming to a decision.

DISCOVER IT FOR YOURSELF

Whenever your conscious mind wants to make a decision and it’s just not happening, it’s because subconscious roadblocks are interfering with the process.  For some inexplicable reason, your subconscious doesn’t want a change in the status quo, even though at least one of the choices is in your best interests.

During a session, all you have to do is sit quietly on the phone for an hour or so 2-3 times a month, without multi-tasking.  It’s that easy.  No mindset reset, affirmations, keeping a journal, making lists — none of this is necessary.

Go to the Roadblock Removal website right now, and take a look at the About page to learn more about the process.  Check out the Is This You? page to see some of the challenges clients have successfully overcome, and you can, too.  Take a look at some of the Testimonials (there are dozens more that I have to get my act together and put up there).

Then click on the link in one of the boxes on the home page to discover even more, and choose which participation option is right for you.

Don’t let another week, month or year go by as your life slips away because you aren’t or can’t make decisions and choices that serve your best interests.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ONLY ONE LIFE,
THERE IS NO DO-OVER

You CAN have what you want to have, be who you want to be and do what you want to do once you get rid of the barriers standing in your way.  Imagine how great that will feel!!  The sooner you do something about it, the sooner this will be your reality.

If you have any questions, email me at sydney@sydneybarrows.com and we’ll schedule a call so you can describe your situation to me, and I’ll tell you how we’ll go about resolving  it.

Wishing you happiness, prosperity and abundance in all things,

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Why does procrastination protect you

July 27, 2014 by  
Filed under Mindset

When we set a goal for ourselves and are unable to “find the time” to accomplish it, we usually attribute that failure to procrastination.  That goal could be any number of things, like writing an ebook, redoing your website, adding a new service or creating a new program or product.

We definitely want to do it, we know our business and our bottom line would benefit from it, but even so, it never seems to get finished.  Or even started.  What’s up with that?

Lots of things are up with that
There are so many reasons people “procrastinate” and one of them is fear of success.  What will or might happen if the ebook does well and brings in lots of new business?  Or it could be apprehension that we’ll have to put in even more hours than we already do to service our new clients, patients or customers.

There’s the fear that we won’t be able to handle so many more clients without expanding the business and hiring or outsourcing others to work for us, not to mention the management issues that come with that.

Fear trumps success
That’s just the tip of the iceberg, there are myriad reasons we fear success.  And because of that fear, we subconsciously “choose” not to succeed in order to avoid all the trauma and drama we fear will come with it.

Fear of Success

THE STORY

Art is a financial planner who spent quite a few years in the Asset Management Division of two banks before striking out on his own.  A handful of clients came with him, and like so many of you reading this, his new office was the dining room table.

He saw clients in a business/social club he belonged to “downtown” and no one was the wiser.  As he became more successful, he hired an admin, then an investment assistant, a bookkeeper and a portfolio manager.  The living room furniture was put in storage and replaced with half a dozen desks, filing cabinets and the like.

Prospects galore!
Then he was introduced to a business group of very successful men and women by one of his clients who sang his praises, and he joined this group himself because he could tell that many of the members had the potential to become clients.

Not very long after, he began receiving requests to meet and discuss his investment strategy so these prospects could judge whether he was a fit for their financial goals.

THE STRUGGLE

Art found it increasingly difficult to fit so many outside meetings into his schedule and run his business at the same time.  Nearly all of them resulted in a request for more specific information, but much to his consternation, wasn’t following up with them the way he knew he should in order to get their business.

This had never happened before and he was beginning to panic.  I had dinner with a mutual friend one evening who was indulging in a bit of schadenfreude (a feeling of enjoyment that comes from seeing or hearing about the troubles of other people) over this.

It was obvious to me that Art had roadblocks that were sabotaging his ability to do what he needed to do to acquire these clients.

A little too woo-woo airy-fairy?
I told our mutual friend a little bit about subconscious blocks that interfere with and can even block doing what we need to do to succeed, and while he was skeptical, he did mention it to Art.

Art was even more skeptical, but not so skeptical that he didn’t call to inquire about it further.  After being assured that it was all done on the phone, he wouldn’t have to talk about it, and if he saw no improvement he’d get a full refund, he grudgingly agreed to give it a try.

THE ROADBLOCKS

It turned out that Art had no fear of success itself, but of what it would require to successfully service so many clients.  He couldn’t fit any more staff into his apartment, and the prospect of looking for an office and having to do renovations as well as furnish it, none of which was even remotely his area of expertise, filled him with apprehension.

The worst thing about it, however, was the not-inconsiderable added expense of an office that he’d be contractually responsible for every month for several years.  Commercial space in the area and for the kind of building he would need to be in, was expensive.

The cons kept mounting up
And then there were all of the employees to think about, to manage, and the expenses that come with that.  None of this would be an issue if he didn’t bring on more clients.

His subconscious mind was throwing up these roadblocks to “protect” him from all this trauma and drama and keep him “safe”, which is the subconscious mind’s number one priority.

We accuse ourselves of procrastinating, when it’s really all about self-preservation, only we don’t realize it.

THE RESULTS

While it may sound like this would be a tough case to resolve, in fact it was fairly easy.  Art wasn’t afraid of success per se, he feared the added expense of an office and more employees.

After two sessions his anxiety level dropped noticeably, and by the fourth, he’d found a real estate broker and was starting to look at spaces.  He said that he thought he might need a few more sessions down the road, but finding and furnishing an office was what he had to deal with at the moment, and at the moment, that was working.

IT’S POSSIBLE FOR THIS TO BE YOUR REALITY, TOO

We all have a subconscious that’s always on the alert for a situation that might cause us “harm” and in its sometimes misguided attempt to keep us safe, actually keeps us from achieving or having what we really want for ourselves, our business and our life.

When you find yourself “procrastinating” about achieving goal or accomplishing something you desire, more often than not it’s your subconscious looking out for what it perceives to be your best interests.  Remove those subconscious blocks, those roadblocks, and create the business and live the life you really want.

DISCOVER IT FOR YOURSELF

It usually takes just one or two sessions for you to notice a difference in the way you think and feel and in the choices you make.  No willpower or “making” yourself do anything, it comes completely naturally.  Most of my clients use the word, transformation.

And it couldn’t be easier, all you have to do is sit quietly on the phone, without multi-tasking, for an hour or so 2-3 times a month.  It’s that simple.

TIME TO TAKE ACTION!

Don’t let another week, month or year go by without accomplishing the things you want to do or achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

Go to the Roadblock Removal website right now, and take a look at the About page to learn more about the process.  Check out the Is This You? page to see some of the challenges former clients have successfully overcome, and you can, too.  Take a look at some of the Testimonials (there are dozens more that I have to get my act together and put up there).

Then click on the link in one of the boxes on the home page to discover even more, and choose which participation option is right for you.

REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ONLY ONE LIFE,
THERE IS NO DO-OVER

You CAN have what you want to have, be who you want to be and do what you want to do once you get rid of the blocks standing in your way.  Imagine how great that will feel!!  The sooner you do something about it, the sooner this will be your reality.

If you have any questions, email me at sydney@sydneybarrows.com and we’ll schedule a call so you can describe your situation to me, and I’ll tell you how we’ll go about resolving it.

sydneysig

 

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